20 Questions to Ask Your Wedding Party Before the Big Day

Stress-Free Wedding Planning
Written By Erika Kaebisch

Once you’ve set expectations and established boundaries (ICYMI, read this blog first), it’s time to dig into the details. Your wedding party is here to support you—but you also want to support them in feeling prepared, comfortable, and clear on what’s expected.

These questions can help you avoid last-minute chaos and miscommunication—while making everyone feel more connected and involved.

Logistics & Scheduling

  1. Are you available for the rehearsal + dinner the night before?

  2. What’s your availability the morning of the wedding?

  3. Do you need help arranging transportation or accommodations?

  4. Are there any accessibility needs we should consider?

  5. Are you comfortable with the planned start/end times?

Attire & Comfort

  1. Do you feel good in your outfit and shoes? (Be honest—this matters!)

  2. Do you need assistance with alterations or styling?

  3. Do you plan to do your own hair and makeup or book with the group?

  4. Would you like a say in accessories or hairstyles?

  5. Is there anything that would make you more comfortable that day?

Emotional Prep & Roles

  1. Are you comfortable giving a toast or speech if asked?

  2. Would you prefer not to be in the spotlight (e.g., walking down the aisle solo)?

  3. Do you know your role in the ceremony?

  4. Is there anything you're nervous about for the day?

  5. How can I support you throughout this?

Day-Of Details

  1. Are you okay being in lots of photos—or would you prefer to limit that?

  2. Can I count on you for any specific tasks (like wrangling family for photos)?

  3. Are you comfortable checking in with vendors or guests if needed?

  4. Do you know what to pack or bring for the day?

  5. What’s one thing you’re excited for on the wedding day?

Bonus Tip: Ask Early

You don’t need to send this as a formal questionnaire (unless you want to—go you!). A casual check-in or a fun group chat is enough. Just open the door to conversation before the week-of stress sets in.

Asking these questions helps your wedding party feel appreciated, empowered, and prepared. No scrambling, no guessing, no drama.

Haven’t read it yet? Start with Wedding Party Conversations: Boundaries & Expectations (Without the Guilt) for even smoother planning.

Erika Kaebisch
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